Things in life don’t always go right or wrong. I think they also go up, down, backwards, forwards and sometimes just plain upside down. At this point I think it’s safe to say that things rarely end up the way we expect them to & we should probably start to place more stock in finding ourselves in uncharted territories than anywhere else. With all of that being said, one of the most popular phrases to provide someone with a dose of solace in a moment of weakness or extreme unexpected change is “everything happens for a reason” or “trust the process.” We hear these lines so often that they have become triggers in our brains to basically figure out how to buck up & get over whatever we are facing.
These words strung together have found a commonplace in our world & become a part of our existence. They sort of feel like blanket statements that no longer carry real value or depth, rather, the temporary bandaid for the circumstance you are coming to grips with. However, the truth of the matter is that those words are a matter of truth. I have lost loved ones unexpectedly, way beyond their time & at a place in my life when I was too young to properly be able to process my feelings. I have centered my world & my purpose around a job that after 6 devoted years, was fired from. I’ve moved across the country & left a life that I created for myself, by myself to be closer to family & embark on building my dream life with the person I thought I would spend my forever with only to find out that, that person wasn’t really ready to love me the way I know I need & want to be loved. I’ve seen all of these things among other difficult to deal with situations happen to people I love & care about & also to complete strangers. Across the board, the reality is always the same. Something. Better. Always. Awaits.
I wouldn't have learned so much about gratitude or see the world through the eyes that I do if I hadn't lost my 19 year old aunt when I was in third grade. I wouldn't have stepped into my real calling in life or found SoulCycle if I weren't fired from my previous job. I am still processing that final example, the wound is still quite fresh, but I know the reason will present itself at the right time and it will make sense to me. I guess what I am trying to say & what I have learned is...it’s those in-between moments where we have an opportunity to capitalize on the real magic. The moments when we feel like we are at our absolute lowest points, when our backs are up against a wall, that we are presented the option to rise again, taller & stronger than before. To wake up everyday in pursuit of finding out why life handed you this circumstance & what lesson is at stake to be cultivated.
We create our realities each & everyday. So, challenge yourself to gain a new perspective when life hands you an unfortunate fate & see what you just might be able to turn it into.